New Year’s Resolution: Dream Big, Set Goals, Take Action!

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A goal is the object of a person’s ambition or effort; an aim or desired result.

A resolution is a firm decision to do or not to do something.

While having a list of resolutions for the New Year is popular among people, it is not the same as making a list of goals. Why? Because goals are tangible; they are the things you want to accomplish in life because it is your passion and excites you. According to the New York Times, bestselling author and blogger, Ruth Soukup, when setting your goals it is essential toThink Big,and identify the things that are most important, such as a big dream you have been too scared to do. Because the dreams you fear most to achieve, are the ones to aim– the hard part is taking action and being consistent.

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I took Ruth’s advice, sat down for one hour and listed my big dreams. I imagined how my life would be like in ten years. I thought about my passion; it has always been writing. That explains the reason I wrote many stories as a kid; why I loved my creative writing class in middle school; the reason I majored in English Literature in college. What has held me back is having fear and being insecure. Over the past year, I’ve developed a frame of thought; fear is for people who are afraid to fail. With that in mind, there is nothing that is going to stop me from publishing many novels and becoming a New York Times bestselling author.

Now that I have a clear vision of my dream, I have set tangible goals that I will gradually achieve in 2019. The goals I set for myself are broken down so that I can accomplish them, not overwhelm myself and give up. I am taking necessary steps no matter how long it takes because success takes a lot of time, a lot of effort and consistency.

A new year is about to begin; you can break down your big dreams into realistic goals you can achieve this upcoming year. Below are a few suggestions for creating your list of goals and sticking to it.

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Take Ruth Soukup’s advice — ‘Think BIG.’

There is nothing wrong with dreaming big and doing all you can to make them come true. Dreams are what motivates people to succeed and become a better version of themselves. I recommend reading Ruth’s blog, “The Magic of Thinking Big.”

Write Your Big Dreams and Goals on Paper.

Handwriting your dreams and goals makes it real and personal. It also helps you remember what you are aiming so you can break down your big goals into Small and Smart Goals.

Make Small and Smart Monthly Goals.

I learned the hard way that to accomplish big goals; you have to break it down into realistic and measurable goals that are small and smart to prevent from burning out. For example:

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*Realistic goal: 300 – 500 words a day; Measurable goal: completing three to four chapters a month.

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Living Well Planner by Ruth Soukup

I haven’t tried the planner but will be beginning January 1st. I searched many planners and found the Living Well Planner the best one by far and know that it will do more than help organize my upcoming busy year of blogging/writing and juggling a full-time job. Four reasons I choose Living Well Planner:

  1. It is an All-in-one resource.
  2. Designed to help you take back your time, and to allow you to focus on your long-term goals while still navigating the daily, weekly, and monthly responsibilities.
  3. Helps establish a monthly cash flow budget so that you can tell where your money is going.
  4. Section for planning meals and shopping list, right on the same page as the weekly schedule so that you can see your whole week at a glance.

Reward Yourself

Anytime you fulfill one of your small and smart goals, reward yourself. Think about something you really want to do or buy and do it when you accomplish a goal. For example, after writing in my Five Minute Journal for three months, I bought myself pearl earrings from my favorite antique-vintage shop, Pippin.

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Failure is OKAY!

Failure is part of life; however, don’t give up. Understand that setbacks are purposely manifested to learn from them and grow in wisdom.

If necessary, Change Your Goals Throughout The Year.

Do not feel ashamed for deciding to change your goals (dreams) in the middle of the year. I sure did many times. It is normal. The important thing is that you are making the necessary adjustments to make your dreams come true.

Take Your Time – Be Patient.

Not only have patience with reaching your goals, be patient with yourself. It takes a long time to achieve success. No one has ever succeeded overnight. It takes years of mistakes, practice, and self-evolving.

Practice Gratitude

By practicing gratitude daily, you become more aware of what your goals are and appreciate all of the efforts you’ve put into making your dreams come true. Two gratitude journals I highly recommend:

The Five Minute Journal: A Happier You in 5 Minutes a Day – great for gratitude and accountability.

Start Today Journal by Rachel Hollis- best for motivation and setting goals.

Love yourself.

Loving yourself is an essential guideline because it is not possible to build confidence if you do not love yourself. Love yourself by doing things that positively benefits you and makes you better.

CONCLUSION

One of my favorite things to say is, life is how you make it; it begins with you.  Success comes from your efforts; not from luck. The secret is, Dreaming Big, Setting Goals, Taking Action, and never giving up.

FAQ

What goals are you setting for 2019? 

Since my goal is to be a New York Times bestselling author, My top three goals for 2019 are:

  1. Write a novel.
  2. Teach myself how to grow my blog’s SEO on Google.
  3. Learn and gradually build a social media Platform.

4 Reasons and Ways to Practice Gratitude

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Now that we’ve reached the Holiday Season, the first being Thanksgiving, it is the perfect time to begin to practice gratitude. Gratitude is defined as the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return the kindness. It is correlated with optimism, which in turn makes us happy.

I began to practice gratitude recently. I am not sure why or how all a sudden I had the urge to practice gratitude, but it has been the most effective tool I’ve used so far to embrace who I am.

I urge that you begin to practice gratitude today! It is effortless and does not take much time or energy; however, it takes practice. I guarantee that once you do, you will see improvements in yourself– understand and appreciate life in a different way that you’ve never before.

Below I share four Reason and four ways to practice gratitude. I also include ten things I am grateful for and a simple 21 Days Challenge that I’ve tried when I first started to practice gratitude that takes less than 2 minutes each day to complete.

4 Ways to Reasons to Gratitude

1. Strengthens your awareness

The greatest gift you can give yourself is becoming consciously aware of the beauty and abundance in life. By practicing gratitude, you become aware of the present moment of what is happening right NOW. We learn the necessary acknowledgment that each moment of life is enough, no matter what experience, whether is pleasant or unpleasant.

2. Reduces the habit of complaining

“All happy people are grateful. Ungrateful people cannot be happy. We tend to think that being unhappy leads people to complain, but it is truer to say that complaining leads to people becoming unhappy.” – Dennis Prage

People who complain often, don’t know that they are and have no control. Researchers found that our brains and bodies respond more to negativity than positivity, which is why people are prone to complain. Think about how often you complain in a day and what causes the adverse reaction or feeling. Gratitude is the antidote of negativity and complaining. By practicing gratitude, you are automatically able to reduce the habit of complaining by noticing every time you whine and asking yourself, why am I complaining? Is it worth my energy? What are the things at this moment (right now) that I am grateful?

3. Improves your health:

4. Makes you a happier person

Gratitude leads to a more sustainable form of happiness because it is not based on immediate gratification; its a frame of mind. It is an attitude and a way of living that makes you conscious of the simple things. It can even lead you to appreciate all living things nature that makes the earth a livable environment for us humans to live.

4 Ways to Practicing Gratitude

Please note that the list below is in order in the way I started to work on becoming grateful.


1. Writing in a journal daily about the things you are thankful for.

Writing in a journal about the things you are grateful is easy. The hard part is remembering to do it every day and being consistent. After searching for many journals online, the best one I’ve found is The Five Minute Journal. By merely writing three things you are thankful for every day, you will gradually see how much in life there is to appreciate.

 2. Read books about Personal Development


Reading books about personal development can help you form a better understanding of its benefits, providing you with inspirational examples and suggestions of ways you can become grateful. I recommend the following books:

3. Meditation and Mindfulness

It has been found that meditation can reliably increase feelings of gratitude. Practicing meditation every day helps promote a positive mood, hope, and resilience. As we experience positive emotions, our awareness broadens, and our creativity and problem-solving capacities blossom, and we become more effective in whatever we choose to do in life.

4. Expressing and Sharing Gratitude

The ability to consistently experience gratitude is both a cultivated skill and a gift – one that must be shown and shared with others over and over again to realize its full power. You can express and share gratitude by:

  • Being an active listener
  • Being thoughtful to others
  • Being a support system
  • Volunteering your time
  • Saying Thank You

CONCLUSION

Gratitude is a significant component of experiencing happiness. It is a selfless act that is worth practicing because it helps you find meaning in life– your life’s purpose. After reading this blog, start today, start now, and I promise that you will begin to appreciate the simplicity of life and evolve to a happier and healthier person.

10 THINGS I AM GRATEFUL FOR:

  1. Who I am.
  2. My awesome-strong mother.
  3. My amazing and loving husband.
  4. My job working at the Rubin Museum of Art.
  5. My website and blog.
  6. My best friend, Amy.
  7. My demanding boss whose personality I love.
  8. Paying off my debt.
  9. Living in Astoria, NY.
  10. Living life!

21 Days Challenge

Have trouble listing what you are grateful for? Below I share 21 Days Challenge to start you off!

Day 1 – What sound am I grateful for today?

Day 2 – What color am I grateful for?

Day 3 – What smell am I grateful for?

Day 4 – What texture am I grateful for?

Day 5 – What season am I grateful for?

Day 6 – What in nature am I grateful for?

Day 7 – What emotion am I grateful for?

Day 8 – Who in my life am I grateful for?

Day 9 – What song am I grateful for?

Day 10 – What about my body am I grateful for?

Day 11 – What abilities am I grateful for?

Day 12 – What about my surroundings am I grateful for?

Day 13 – What relationship am I grateful for?

Day 14 – What material possession am I grateful for?

Day 15 – What moment this week am I grateful for?

Day 16 – What about today am I grateful for?

Day 17 – What tradition am I most grateful for?

Day 18 – What hobby am I most grateful for?

Day 19 – What about me am I most grateful for?

Day 20 – What about life am I most grateful for?

Day 21 – What challenge am I grateful for?

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