New Year’s Resolution: Dream Big, Set Goals, Take Action!

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A goal is the object of a person’s ambition or effort; an aim or desired result.

A resolutionĀ is a firm decision to do or not to do something.

While having a list of resolutions for the New Year is popular among people, it is not the same as making a list of goals. Why?Ā Because goals are tangible; they are the things you want to accomplish in life because it is your passion and excites you. According to the New York Times, bestselling author and blogger, Ruth Soukup, when setting your goals it is essential toThink Big,and identify the things that are most important, such as a big dream you have been too scared to do. Because theĀ dreams you fear most to achieve, are the ones to aim– the hard part is taking action and being consistent.

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I took Ruth’s advice, sat down for one hour and listed my big dreams. I imagined how my life would be like in ten years. I thought about my passion; it has always been writing. That explains the reason I wrote many stories as a kid; why I loved my creative writing class in middle school; the reason I majored in English Literature in college. What has held me back is having fear and being insecure. Over the past year, I’ve developed a frame of thought; fear is for people who are afraid to fail. With that in mind, there is nothing that is going to stop me from publishing many novels and becoming a New York Times bestselling author.

Now that I have a clear vision of my dream, I have set tangible goals that I will gradually achieve in 2019. The goals I set for myself are broken down so that I can accomplish them, not overwhelm myself and give up. I am taking necessary steps no matter how long it takes because success takes a lot of time, a lot of effort and consistency.

A new year is about to begin; you can break down your big dreams into realistic goals you can achieve this upcoming year. Below are a few suggestions for creating your list of goals and sticking to it.

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Take Ruth Soukup’s advice — ‘Think BIG.’

There is nothing wrong with dreaming big and doing all you can to make them come true. Dreams are what motivates people to succeed and become a better version of themselves. I recommend reading Ruth’s blog, “The Magic of Thinking Big.”

Write Your Big Dreams and Goals on Paper.

Handwriting your dreams and goals makes it real and personal. It also helps you remember what you are aiming so you can break down your big goals into Small and Smart Goals.

Make Small and Smart Monthly Goals.

I learned the hard way that to accomplish big goals; you have to break it down into realistic and measurable goals that areĀ small and smart toĀ prevent from burning out.Ā For example:

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*Realistic goal: 300 – 500 words a day; Measurable goal: completing three to four chapters a month.

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Living Well Planner by Ruth Soukup

I haven’t tried the planner but will be beginning January 1st. I searched many planners and found the Living Well Planner the best one by far and know that it will do more than help organize my upcoming busy year of blogging/writing and juggling a full-time job. Four reasons I choose Living Well Planner:

  1. It is an All-in-one resource.
  2. Designed to help youĀ take back your time, and to allow youĀ to focus on your long-term goals while still navigating the daily, weekly, and monthly responsibilities.
  3. Helps establish a monthly cash flow budget so that you can tell where your money is going.
  4. Section for planning meals and shopping list, right on the same page as the weekly schedule so that you can see your whole week at a glance.

Reward Yourself

Anytime you fulfill one of your small and smart goals, reward yourself. Think about something you really want to do or buy and do it when you accomplish a goal. For example, after writing in my Five Minute Journal for three months, I bought myself pearl earrings from my favorite antique-vintage shop, Pippin.

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Failure is OKAY!

Failure is part of life; however, don’t give up. Understand that setbacks are purposely manifested to learn from them and grow in wisdom.

If necessary, Change Your Goals Throughout The Year.

Do not feel ashamed for deciding to change your goals (dreams) in the middle of the year. I sure did many times. It is normal. The important thing is that you are making the necessary adjustments to make your dreams come true.

Take Your Time – Be Patient.

Not only have patience with reaching your goals, be patient with yourself.Ā It takes a long time to achieve success. No one has ever succeeded overnight. It takes years of mistakes, practice, and self-evolving.

Practice Gratitude

By practicing gratitude daily, you become more aware of what your goals are and appreciate all of the efforts you’ve put into making your dreams come true. Two gratitude journals I highly recommend:

The Five Minute Journal: A Happier You in 5 Minutes a DayĀ – great for gratitude and accountability.

Start Today Journal by Rachel Hollis- best for motivation and setting goals.

Love yourself.

Loving yourself is an essential guideline because it is not possible to build confidence if you do not love yourself. Love yourself by doing things that positively benefits you and makes you better.

CONCLUSION

One of my favorite things to say is,Ā life is how you make it; it begins with you.Ā Ā Success comes from your efforts; not from luck. The secret is, Dreaming Big, Setting Goals, Taking Action, and never giving up.

FAQ

What goals are you setting for 2019?Ā 

Since my goal is to be a New York Times bestselling author, My top three goals for 2019 are:

  1. Write a novel.
  2. Teach myself how to grow my blog’s SEO on Google.
  3. Learn and gradually build a social media Platform.

How to Gradually Build Self-Confidence

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Insecurity is uncertainty and lack of self- confidence. People deal with their version of vulnerabilities everyday and its inevitable. I have lived my entire life being insecure and second-guessing everything I do. But, I have reached an age that I no longer want insecurity to define who I am. For so long, I have allowed it to consume me and bring me down, and for the first time, I am making progress and gradually building confidence.

My top three of my debilitating insecurities are:

  1. my body
  2. writing
  3. being comfortable taking photos.

Even though I am working on becoming confident, I will admit that it is hard. There will be days that you will feel insecure more than others, but those are the most important days that you’ll need to fight with your negative inner voice– let it know that you are not going to allow it to bring you down.

Below are five ways you can gradually develop self-confidence that has worked for me. One thing I advice is to be patient with yourself because building confidence is a journey, a transcendence to bettering who you are and what you are meant to be.

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Becoming aware and admitting to what makes you second guess yourself and feel insecure.

Admitting to having insecurities is hard for some people because to them, it is a sign of weakness, but it isn’t; it is an indication of strength. You are capable of making your life better; it all depends on fully acknowledging your capabilities and not bringing yourself down. Start telling yourself “I am capable.” instead of “I am incapable” or “I can’t.”

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Stop comparing yourself to others.Ā 

Author Jen Sincero in her bookĀ You are a bad Ass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome LifeĀ quotes, “Comparison is the fastest way to take all the fun out of life. ” Why? Because you are not living a unique life. Instead of being your leader, writing your script, you are a follower and letting others lead because you are comparing yourself to them and their life. It is not realistic; it isn’t you.

UseĀ orĀ Don’tĀ use Social Media.

Use – If you are like me and are insecure about what others think about you, then social media is a great platform to help build your confidence. Posting what you want, regardless of what others think, can help you become more secure with yourself because you are showing the world who you are no matter what they think of you.

Don’t use – If you go to social media and continually comparing yourself to others, then I do not recommend using social media; give it a break.

Don’t care what others think of you, even people closest to you.

Why waste time and energy on thinking about what others think? Are they helping you better yourself? If not, don’t care.

Stay away from negative people.

I am going to share with you one of the best advice my mom said to me many times growing up: stay away from negative people. They are only content when knowing others are miserable. From what I have experienced in my twenty-seven years of life– my mother is right. I’ve even lost friends because of how harmful they view life. I couldn’t bear listening to constant negativity, so I distanced myself. If you have to do the same, do it!

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Gratitude Journals

Practicing gratitude is helpful because it gives a different perspective about yourself, and generally, on life.Ā  You become more aware of who you are and able to appreciate the beauty in living abundantly. I recommend the following journals:

The Five Minute Journal: A Happier You in 5 Minutes a DayĀ – great for gratitude and accountability.

Start Today Journal by Rachel Hollis- best for motivation and setting goals.

Love yourself.

Loving yourself is an essential guideline because it is not possible to build confidence if you do not love yourself. Love yourself by doing things that positively benefits you and makes you better.

CONCLUSION

There is nothing better in life than living it the way you want and should. To do that, you have to build confidence and love yourself. Don’t waste time and as the author, Rachel Hollis says Start Today.

Reach out to me at glenys.boyne@gmail.com

5 Ways to Motivate and Inspire You to Make a Change in Your Career!

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One of the hardest adult decisions I’ve made was deciding to leave a career I’d thought I was meant to do. In 2016, I enrolled in theĀ gruesome New York City Teaching Fellows. It’s a program that brings career changers and recent graduate students into NYC classrooms to teach critical-need subject areas, including English, special education, and math.

I decided to join the NYCTF in 2016 because I’d thought I was meant to be a teacher–it was my favorite game to play as a child. After six weeks, of what seemed like hell, I passed and completed the program and got a job at a school in the South Bronx to teach sixth grade Engish. But after six months, I resigned from my position as a teacher and fellow.

I quit because I was unhappy and knew from the first week I’d begun the fellowship, but couldn’t admit it, partly because I’d left a great job at the Metropolitan Museum of Art to become a teacher. I thought that if I gave it a chance, I’d eventually like it. Over time, I developed insomnia, hardly ate, and had constant anxiety.

Deciding to quit was hard, but it was the best decisions I made. For the first time, I made a decision that felt right. Imagine if I’d kept a career that made me miserable for the rest of my life because of fear of quitting and starting over?

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Fear is a big factor for the reason why many remain in a job that is terrible. But, there is nothing scarier than staying in a profession that makes you unhappy. Yes, having a secure job is essential, but doing something that matters to you and passionate about is a fantasticĀ aspiration and experience.

Below are five ways to motivate and inspire you to make a change in your career and life.

1. Make a list of things you like and dislike about your current job.

Making a list can give you a definitive perspective. If your con list surpasses the pro, it means that you may have to make necessary changes to your career.

2. Take a moment and ask yourself:

What would make me happy? What do I imagine myself doing? What motives me? What are my passions?

3. Follow your instincts.

Instinct allows you to get the first warning signs when anything is off in your body so that you can address it. If you have a gut feeling about your body ā€” that something is toxic, weak or ā€˜offā€™ ā€” listen to it. Chances are, you know the answer to what would make you happy.

4. Do not let fear hold you back.

Living in fear is dangerous. If you live in fear, you are not living at all because it is not allowing you to experience life. It is making you a pessimist because you are hiding from the world and overthinking the worst. Ask yourself, are you going to let fear make you cynical and define who you are? NO!

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5. Change is necessary!

Part of being human and growing up is accepting the changes around you, within you, and generally, in life.

CONCLUSION
Deciding to change your career is difficult. But if you know you are unhappy and unwell, do yourself a favor, take care of yourself and do what is best for you. Cliche, do not allow fear hold you back becauseĀ sadly life is too short and you only live once. Don’t waste it! Life is full of possibilities.

FAQ:

What made you resign your position as a teacher and fellowship?

There are many reasons; the top three reasons though was first to take care of myself because I was living an unhealthy lifestyle. Second, many schools do not have funds for school supplies, and teachers spend their own money. I wound up spending between $300 – $500 a month. Lastly, I was unhappy, and to be a good teacher, you have to like it; it is impossible to teach well if you are pretending to. You are working with children, and they sense everything.Ā 

How long did it take you to get another job?

It took six weeks. I first started a part-time job at a tutoring company because I needed the money while looking for something else. Then after a month working as a tutor, I interviewed for the Administrative position at the Rubin Museum of Art and got the job.

How did you support yourself? Did you have money saved?Ā 

When I decided to quit, I needed time to determine if it was the right decision. So, I took a leave of absence, which still paid me. And yes, I had money saved which helped pay my rent. But, once I definitively decided, I had already accepted my position at the Rubin.Ā 

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10 Ways To Find Your Purpose

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1. Live in the present.

Living in the present is difficult, especially for those who are adamant about being in control about all aspects of their lives ā€” living in the present means to live in the moment and concentrating on what is going on at this moment.

2. Reading self-help and spiritual books.

Reading self-help and spiritual books have been a tremendous aid in figuring out your purpose. So many authors have gone through similar experiences. It is refreshing to read about it because it gives you a piece of mind– you are not alone– you are not the only one on this planet going through problems. See the bottom of the page for a recommended list of self-help and spiritual books and podcasts.

Read:10 Reasons Reading Everyday isĀ Important

3. Knowledge is POWER!

The more you educate yourself, the more your general awareness becomes clearer. Reading is a powerful tool because it exercises, challenges, and stimulates your mind and imagination.

4. Meditation

Meditation may be difficult to master at first, but after you put it into practice every day, you become better, and eventually, it will become part of your daily routine.

5. Stay away from negative people.

I am going to share one of the best advice my mom said to me many times growing up: stay away from negative people. They are miserable people that like to make others miserable like them. From what I have experienced in my twenty-seven years of life– my mother is right. I’ve even lost friends because of how pessimistic they view life. I couldn’t bear listening to constant negativity, so I distanced myself. If you have to do the same, do it!

6. No more excuses, be consistent.

When you find excuses not to do something, chances are, you will never come around and follow-through. The key is to be consistency and push yourself. You will notice that after, you will feel good about yourself because you accomplished something. So next time you decide not to do something force yourself and see how good you will feel.

7. Stop comparing yourself.

If comparing yourself know is a problem for you, try to detach yourself from the source, even if it’s ending a relationship or deleting your Instagram for a while. Because at the end of the day, nothing matters, but yourself. Become your biggest fan!

8. Stop trying to impress others.

Of course, you have to impress others at some point, for example, an employer on an interview. But, to always worry about what others think, negates you from living the life you are meant to live. It makes you do things that are not genuine, not you. The only person you need to impress is yourself.

9. Practice Gratitude

Life is not easy, and you should know that by now; however, be grateful– you are alive! You are given the opportunity to live in this universe– take advantage of it. Be thankful for the little things you have. When you practice gratitude, it makes wholesome and leads to feeling peaceful, content, and in the moment.


The Five Minute Journal: A Happier You in 5 Minutes a Day

Read: 4 Reasons and Ways to PracticeĀ Gratitude

10. CONCLUSION: Love yourself, no matter what!

Loving yourself is most important in finding your purpose. You are unique and know there is a reason why you are here– hone who you are and flourish.

SUGGESTED SELF-HELP/SPIRITUAL BOOKS:

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change


The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life



Girl, Wash Your Face: Stop Believing the Lies About Who You Are so You Can Become Who You Were Meant to Be



You Are a BadassĀ®: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life

PODCASTS TO LISTEN TO:Ā 

  1. Melissa AmbrosiniĀ 

  2. PURSUIT WITH PURPOSE PODCAST by Melyssa Griffin

  3. Do It Scared by Ruth Soukup

  4. RISE Together Rachel & David Hollis