Why do Some Friendships Drift Apart?

Everything in life is impermanent. There is no control to change. It occurs to maintain balance and order in our lives as we make decisions. When we grow up, we tend to notice changes more through the experiences that shapes who we are.

As we change throughout our lives, so do the people we get close to and build friendships. Ever wonder why you become friends with someone for a while and then one day, you are no longer in contact?— Change. Of course, everyone has their reason for drifting apart. It is part of life.

Below are some reasons why friends often drift apart.

Understand the different types of friendships:

Reason friendships are those you meet in order to learn an important life lesson in some way or another.

Seasonal friendships are meant to help shape your personality and individuality into what it is today.

Lifetime friendships are destined to be in your life forever. This is the type of friendships most people aspire to have.

Lack of Chemistry

Chemistry is the emotional connection people have with each other. When people lack in chemistry, it often results in a lack of emotional understanding. Things just feel kind of dead and dull when you hang out together.

Minimal things in common

Friends with minimal things in common do not tend to have a long-lasting relationship. You may get along with them, but there is not enough of a motive to build or maintain a friendship.

Difficult to accept each other’s differences

Difficulty accepting the differences of other people is a challenge for everyone. That is because everyone is different and unique. While we are capable of getting along with people with opposing views and ideas, it is often impossible to sustain a friendship.

No Trust

Generally, no trust equals no relationship.

Does NOT have each other’s best interest

When people do not have each other’s best interest, it often creates toxic relationships based on comparison and competitiveness.

Lack of communication and respect

True communication involves respect. In a friendship respectful communication is a key element of a successful relationship. When disrespectful behavior becomes the norm, the friendship can suffer and possibly even end.

Jealousy and Envy

Jealousy is a negative emotion that occurs when you want what someone else has. Envy is the desire for others’ traits, status, abilities, and possessions. While jealousy and envy can be experienced by anyone at any time, it is unhealthy to have such emotions with close friends. It creates tension, competitiveness, and unauthentic behavior.

CONCLUSION: Life Gets in the Way— things change

We are always evolving. As we get older, we have more responsibilities. Our lives become busy making a living for ourselves and family, leaving us with limited hours in a day to do all that we need. However, it does not mean we end up friendless; it means that the best friend(s) stick around forever. 

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